How do You sleep with your Partner?
The Spoon
- “genitals against buttocks”, this position is most common in the first few years of a relationship and provides maximum closeness for you and your partner. It is a classic position when one partner takes a protective, intimate stance behind the other as the second person leans their back or behind against them. It’s a skin-on-skin position that provides plenty of emotional and physical comfort. If you like this position, chances are you’re either in a brand new relationship or that the two of you can’t get enough of each other.
Leg Hug
- This is rather casual contact between partners and may indicate that the couple is not comfortable expressing affection at this time, as it is an indirect expression of affection. Common after a fight. The position may also indicate a healthy friendship in the relationship.
The Honeymoon Hug
- A common position in those first few months of a relationship when you are so completely engrossed with eachother you wish you could be physically fused together. A common position just after lovemaking. This position can also indicate lack of independence in a relationship. In the “honeymoon hug” position, you and your partner face each other and entangle limbs.
Pursuit
- This one can be quite tricky. When a partner retreats to the side of a bed it may indicate that he needs some space, howvever it may actually be that he has created the distance because he fells like he wants to be persued by the other party.
Shingles
- Head on Other's Shoulder also known as the “shingles” position, this position has both partners sleeping on their backs, with one partner resting his or her head on the other's shoulder. It shows a high level of comradeship, where one partner allows the other to play “protector” and nurture them. So if your head is the one that rests on the others shoulder you are most likely the more dependent and compliant in the relationship and vice versa. This could be seen as an attempt to focus all your attention on your partner.
Zen Style
- Ever heard of the Venn Diagram? 2 circles, separate but overlapping? This position may indicate the need of both partners for space. The buttocks normally touch to allow for private connection, but at the same time promoting independence in the relationship by not clinging onto each other.
Sweetheart’s Cradle
- This is a more intimate position than the “shingles” and very nurturing because the partner is being held and almost brought in “under the wing” of the partner. a sleeping position where one partner lays flat on their back, while the other partner rests their head on the first partner's shoulder or chest, usually with an arm draped across the stomach
The Cliff Hanger
- This is a retreating position, an indication of rejection of the other party. It could also just mean that you are a noisy sleeper and your partner has decided they need some space to get a good night’s rest. Time to have a little chat.
Loosely Tethered
- A few more years into a marriage or relationship often has partner’s feeling secure enough to put some space between them, maintaining the emotional connection through lightly touching, a knee, hand or foot.
The Crab
- This could be a subconscious need for both parties to pull away from the relationship or marriage. And, a warning alarms sound when just looking at the picture. On the flip side he/she may just be a rather creative sleeper.
